Tuesday, October 11, 2016
Luna
Thursday, October 6, 2016
Feelings
Trying to control feelings is like stopping up water. You know like in a dam. Some feelings are fun. I like the fun ones. Don’t you? The tortured and twisted ones are not my favorites but I feel them nonetheless. You can’t pretend the negative ones don’t exist, that’s no good. Even the most serene and calm Buddhist Monk or Zen master will have an emotional outburst given the right circumstances. So you can’t deny them. You can control them, so you do. Maybe sometimes you act on them & something fun is out there? And that's ok too if no one gets hurt. Don’t you like fun? One of my favorite Ken’s knows how to have as much fun as I do. And despite what some of the ladies tell him… I still think he looks damn amazing doing it. ;)
Anyhoo, here’s a new one from my new book Water. It had to be water. Why? It was supposed to be water two years ago, after it was Smoke. The funny thing about water is that Ms. M is always surrounded by it even though I’m a fire element.
Do you control your feelings? Or live in the past?
Enjoy!
Kisses, m.
Feelings
“Fuck your feelings.” He says coyly with a smirk and leans back in the shower.
“I’d rather you were fucking me.” I fidget with the cheap robe that the Four Seasons provided in the suite. Another time I can’t believe I caved in and I’m with a man I swore I’d never because he’s…
“No good,” the almond milk is spoiled. Erica says it with a disdain that tells me she’s convinced I’ll throw it out because of her smell test which is rarely ever in agreement with the date on the package.
“It’s fine. Don’t use it.” I tell her and move back to the poetry of writing my paper.
“It’s exasperating when you force yourself to do things you don’t want to.” My sister echoes with her own brand of self punishment as she pours the milk into her coffee.
“Oh I want to,” I scream out loud as I press him up against the shower wall letting the water spill over us. When I know I should be forcing myself to stop I don’t, because it feels good. I don’t feel bad in spite of how we really are with each other.
“Of course you want to,” he says and pulls me against him. The water splashing against my back feels incredible as his lips find their way across my skin. Our breathing sounds mingle with echoes of water spilling down the drain to fill the silence.
Silently drinking her coffee, Erica slowly pours what remains of the almond milk down the drain. Knowing she wants a response, I ignore her. Loudly she insists “I’m saving you from hurting yourself.”
“Of course you are.”
When he knows I’m aching for more he says it, “Saving the best for last. Waiting hurts, doesn’t it?”
“Of course it does.”
Photo credit: Tyler Shields
Wednesday, July 27, 2016
Universe Rules
Monday, July 11, 2016
Blow out!
Blow
Friday, July 8, 2016
Clean
Saturday, July 2, 2016
Two Goood
Friday, June 17, 2016
As
Jealousy is an ugly & negative emotion that’s linked to anger not love. It’s not reflective of how you feel about someone. There’s times where it’s justified and feels like an instinct but realize it’s brought upon by insecurity. No, in fact it does not mean someone loves you more or vice versa. You can show you care in a different manner. In Buddhism it is considered a form of greed to allow jealousy to consume you. Buddhism teaches that we must understand where these emotions come from and release them. Try practicing mindfulness and metta. It helps me balance my negative emotions.
Now, inciting jealousy in someone is also unnecessary. Talking with a friend isn’t meant to cause jealousness or insecurities. But deliberately inciting jealousy through actions is. Personally when a man decides to try to incite jealousy in moi, I immediately have nothing to do with him. This behavior will always drive things apart. Why? Inciting jealousy only shows how insecure you are. It shows lack of trust and little regard for your love. If you want attention or validation… let your love know because there are more positive ways to go about it.
And ladies, if your paramour is a mutual friend of mine, rest assured he and I agreed long ago not to be more. Bottom Line: I could never be with a taken or married man. Adultry goes against my catholic upbringing & my buddhist beliefs about causing harm to others.
Here’s one about jealousy from a new series that I’m not sure where it’s going but soon I will reveal.
Enjoy
Kisses, m.
As
As he stands,
She follows.
With her eyes,
She chases after him.
As he moves
Through the crowd
Closer to me,
His eyes smile.
Noticing a familiar face.
It’s been a while.
A friend.
As he nears
She scowls,
Pouting
Like a child.
Opening a book,
She feigns nonchalance.
As he nears
I find myself
Leaning back.
I feel myself
Crawling inward
Wanting to close my eyes.
Thinking of waving him away
But I don’t.
With a hint of sass and smirk,
I let the moment unfold.
As time has never passed
Between our meetings,
Without pause,
He’s pulled me
Into a hug.
Quiet and brief,
Followed by a laugh.
That’s far too loud.
Ending with a smile.
That goes on forever.
As our eyes part briefly
I can see her
Without Calm.
She’s hardly breathing.
The gaze in her eyes,
Hardly masks her anger
Mixed with fear.
Gently mounting tears,
Are close,
When she swallows hard.
As my trepidation
Grows.
She‘s listening close,
Awaiting his story’s end.
When it comes it’s all too soon.
But she welcomes it
With a crocodile smile.
As we say our good byes
There are no grand gestures
Only see you laters and laughs.
Grazing my arm, he bids me farewell,
Welcoming the warm hug that follows.
As he is walking away slowly
Making his way
Through the crowd
Back to her fury.
As he nears her,
His movements slow further.
All the while
His focus shifts
Between her scowl and my smile.
As one arm scolds her envy
While the other waves back to me.
His unhappiness with her thickens
And grows heavier
With every intense step
Of his feet.
As the focus
Shifts.
I collect myself
Stepping back with a lean,
Watching her movements
As she watches him continuing to watch me.
Wednesday, May 11, 2016
Yellow
Do you see things differently than others? We all do. In Buddhism, kindness is put before all else. Kindness is amazing to share with others.
Someone told me a while back that once you decide to dislike someone everything they do upsets you and makes you responds negatively to them. Yes, it's a choice to dislike someone. And in my experience people are deliberately cruel thinking it will hurt that person... Reality is that person is oblivious to it. The only person you waste energy hurting is yourself. Perhaps if everyone realized that someone out there dislikes them too they'd try to be kinder.
Who knows? Here's a 300 from my Hair series about seeing things anew.
Enjoy!
Kisses, m.
Yellow
“Yellow, it’s yellow.” He says pulling at my hair like it’s strings and smirking.
“It’s not.” I tell him with a jab to his side. Dropping my hand, I step backwards away from him. I can feel my defenses go up without warning. I want to be mad at his game today but I can’t. I know he’d barely gotten used to my brownish red and I changed again.
“Oh but it is. Looks like bumblebees and school buses collided on your head.”
“It’s blonde. It’s like lemons and sunbeams.” I smile and wonder what he’s thinking about as I antagonize him. I usually let him win but not today. I don’t want to play but there’s no way I’m letting it go.
Last week when we brought in the new window I let go of the cord on the curtains. The action felt completely foreign. It was a moment that I wanted to hold tighter and keep it into place. My instincts were to preserve the image of what we had built all this time together but knowing in the back of my mind it needed to change. Down they went into a puddle of fabric on the floor soaking up the tiny rays of sunshine.
“I like sunshine.” He says and runs his hands through my hair before leaning in to smell it. “There’s hints of Vanilla but not lemons.” He pauses to look me in the eye for a moment that feels like forever.
Just one look felt like forever when we first met. I could get lost in his eyes in front of the windows. Adding the curtains to the space seemed logical while removing them brought in so much light that I can see the hints of yellow in his eyes.
“Yellow, they’re yellow” I tell him.
Wednesday, March 9, 2016
Cloud 9
Wednesday, February 17, 2016
Easy
The truth that I can not teach you and you must learn on your own is that life is quite easy when you let it happen. And you must let it happen. You can only control yourself and that's the easiest thing in the world... And yes sometimes you don't need to be in control. ;)
Do you try to control others choices? How?