Hold On

Can’t let go of what you never had... the only thing you have to hold on to in this life is yourself. Love yourself and you will always have love.

In Buddhism... to love isn’t about owning someone or making them yours. Love is accepting that someone will choose to walk alongside you because they share goals and they accept you as you are, flaws included. 

Making your life and living space beautiful is an extension of that love. You can have an exquisite dreamhouse but if you don’t love living in it, why would anyone else? Think of yourself, your vessel as a Dreamhouse and pour all the amazing love, energy, devotion and attention into taking care of it and building it up. When you find you love it, you’ll realize that you won’t allow others to harm it, including yourself. And you’ll want to share it with someone who values & cares for it as much as you do.

Kisses, m.

Easy

It's easy to copy someone and much harder to put in effort to make a life built on your own. But the effort you put in will always make it worth the work. Anything worth doing will never be easy. 

~m.

Glitter

A life without glitter is no life at all 

~ Toni Collette.

Everyone deserves to sparkle and shine. Love yourself and let it shine out like glitter on your face. 

Kisses, m.

PC: Rumi & Kozdra

Grab

Being yourself and giving no fucks to anyone's perception is the ultimate way to live. I'm not saying it gives you license to be a dick. I'm saying it's ok to tell off anyone who tells you to change. They're the one with the problem with you, not you. The right people love you as is and your flaws. If you want to be better change for yourself, not to win acceptance. Because those who accept you will never need to be won over. Being true to yourself is the sexiest thing anyone can do!

Do grab a hold of yourself and be you? 

Here's an excerpt from my novel... about that it'll be out later this year. 

Enjoy!

Kisses, m.

Grab

“She's so busy trying to be a better version of me that she fails to realize that he's rejected the best version of me for a version of her. It was never me, always her.

In reality, to get & keep that man... all she really needs to do to is grab a hold of herself and stop trying to being me. Because me, that's something he does not want.

It's something I silently wonder as I watch her change herself to be me again as he walks away.”

- jemma - the perspectives

Photo Credit: Terry Richardson 

Live Your Life

life requires a bit of effort, you get what you put into it. laugh when your happy, frown when your sad, dont be afraid to let the teardrops fall, soak it all in, dance to the beat of your heart.

when love knocks on your door, let it in.. dont be afraid to take a risk, cherish your friends, theres a reason they are there. 

play in the rain & swim in the ocean, accept that your heart will get broken, once.. twice, or a 1000 times and you will love again.

sing in the shower and dance in the mirror, roll the windows down and let the wind blow your hair, makes mistakes, dont regret them. 

realize there is no such thing as MR RIGHT or MS RIGHT, but if someone loves you, let them. They wont be a knight in shining armor, or a princess to be rescued, he/she wont sweep you off your feet, but they will catch you when you fall.. they're not supposed to make you happy, they're supposed to make you happier.. find happiness in yourself. its there if you look for it. 

Take lots of pictures with lots of goofy faces, eat popsicles & read the jokes on the stick. LIVE YOUR LIFE to make you smile and to make it worth while, cherish the moments you have because one day it'll be GONE.

~ unknown 

Honestly

 

Honestly everything is in balance... For all that we are there is all that we are not.

I'm wrong quite often. I may not know what's the right way to do things or proceed all the time. Don't judge me for my guise of confidence because I'm hiding my inexperience & vulnerability. It's how I cope, I'm human and embrace my mistakes and try to make right by others on my journey.

I don't deliberately hurt people. I find that is in bad taste to compete, slander or behave cruelly when I don't get my way. Not getting your way is a good thing sometimes. 

I'm not perfect but I no longer feel the need to get even and then intentionally hurt people because I think they wronged me... That's disrespectful to myself and others. 

I love myself and respect others so I do my best to apologize when I'm wrong and let it go when people are intentionally unkind. Karma will right the wrongs of others. Not me. 

Life is too beautiful and the journey too short to waste on such pettiness.

Love yourself more.

Real Love

 

He’s not perfect. You aren’t either, and the two of you will never be perfect.

But if he can make you laugh at least once, causes you to think twice, and if he admits to being human and making mistakes, hold on to him and give him the most you can.

He isn’t going to quote poetry, he’s not thinking about you every moment, but he will give you a part of him that he knows you could break.

Don’t hurt him, don’t change him, and don’t expect more than he can give.

Don’t analyze.

Smile when he makes you happy, yell when he makes you mad, and miss him when he’s not there.

Love hard when there is love to be had. Because perfect guys don’t exist, but there’s always one guy that is perfect for you.

~Bob Marley

Real Love isn't perfect.. It's not one-sided. There's no version of it. It's not a fairytale or a storybook with a happy ending and doesn't always come easy. Love is overcoming obstacles & facing challenges with someone who wants to face them with you. It's not about holding on and never letting go. The right person will have flaws and shortcomings just like you but they'll want to stay without being asked to and removing you from their life is the last thing they will ever want to do.. Leaving your side is the last thing they want to do but they'll do it if you ask them to because love only wants happiness for their beloved. Look, love is hard sometimes but it's absolutely worth it when you find it. 

Kisses, m.

Photo Credit: Tyler Shields

Give a fuck...

Give a fuck about something.

Give a fuck about something meaningful, something that actually helps others so they can actually feel like this world isn’t that bad.

Give a fuck about fun, so you can have fun. When was the last time you had fun? You know you’re allowed to have fun in almost everything in life
right?

Give a fuck about your family. You may not be about to ‘bro’ out with them or share intimate shit with them, but they’re still family and
they’re pretty much always there for you.

Give a fuck about your art. Every little detail counts. It’s pride in one’s work. People can see through your work.

Give a fuck about your relationship. Stop being so damn comfortable. Add some excitement and spice! Have some good sex.

Give a fuck about the world. Join a movement or something.

Give a fuck about your health. Stop eating and drinking so much shit.

Give a fuck about your birthday. No, it’s not just “another day.” Fucking celebrate.

Give a fuck about what’s happening around you. Stop looking at your phone. Stop waiting for that update that rarely ever comes.

Give a fuck about your body. Look good and you feel good. Why don’t you want to feel good?

Give fuck about your kids. They’re waiting for you.

Give a fuck about actually giving a fuck, because there’s a difference between somebody who is slack and somebody who is just entirely aimless.

Give a fuck about your room. Clean it up and clear the clutter. Nobody likes living among crap.

Give a fuck about future. Plan!

Give a fuck about yourself. You get to say no to others. You don’t have to please everybody. You should stand up for yourself. You’re your
own person and you don’t owe anyone a living, and neither do others owe you one. You’re only human and it’s your right to be happy.
You’re equal with others and you deserve to be treated with respect.

You’re going to die one day anyway. You might as well start with the giving of fucks.

~ Alden Tan